It’s often said that confidence is one of the most attractive qualities a person can have, and I have to agree! Self-confidence is not always easy for everyone to achieve, so I’m sharing tips to help boost your confidence that will leave you feeling positive and happy.
Self-confidence is extremely important in almost every aspect of our life—yet, sometimes, we struggle to find it. When you’re confident in your abilities, you inspire others and it most definitely shows in your work. When you lose that bigger picture, and drown in self-doubt (our mind can be a dangerous place), you’re going in reverse. Today, I’m sharing some of my favorite ways to boost confidence and get out of that rut! Remember: ‘It works if you work it! Fake it ’til you make it!’
- Stop comparing: Ah, the comparison thief! For me, when I focus on everyone else’s success, it can sometime drive me into a deep hole, if I let it! We all struggle with comparison at one time or another—in fact, it’s one of the most common and destructive daily habits that we possess. On the flip side, comparison can actually be helpful if we make a conscious effort to go about it the right way. Instead of yielding to envy or negativity, think to yourself, “I really admire that quality in him/her—what can I do to become more like that?” It’s all about perception, folks!
- Set small goals: Small goals, people. We often shoot for the moon, and get highly discouraged when we fail. Shoot for something that’s much more attainable/achievable. Think of these as small stepping stones that are leading you closer to the end result. I’m also a huge fan of making lists. Nothing feels better than crossing off an accomplished task! It’s a great mental exercise—small victories! It’s all about the little things, right.
- Smile: Everyone smiles in the same language. This may sound cheesy (get it?) but, whenever I smile, I instantly feel better. It not only impacts yourself, but others around. Let your smile change the world. Smiling to a stranger can have a chain reaction, so pay it forward!
- Do something: Not just anything, but something you’ve been putting off. What’s been sitting on your to-do lists for weeks on end? Get this out of the way first thing—you’ll feel so great about yourself for finally accomplishing this task! It does wonders for your self-confidence. I challenge you to try it.
- Get organized: When things are chaotic, and organization is lacking, it’s going to affect your end result. It’s hard to be successful when tasks are being forgotten, or rushed. Have a plan of attack every day of the week. Block your time accordingly—set aside time for checking e-mails, response times, working out, etc. Work on this everyday. It takes discipline, but it works and is a huge confidence booster.
- Achievement log: Quite similar to a gratitude journal, keep an achievement log. This is something new I’ve started. Whenever I’m feeling cheerless, I try to focus on the things I’ve already accomplished. When things feel like they’re falling apart, remember: you’ve come so much farther than last year! Keep this somewhere digitally, so it’s easy to pull up whenever you’re having a moment.
- Be yourself: I absolutely love this quote, ‘You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.’ Not everyone is going to like you. I’ve struggled with this my entire life, but it’s true! You can’t control what others think, or do, so stop dwelling on these people. Here’s a bonus tip: work extra hard to distract yourself from negative mind games.
- Body language: Chin up, buttercup! Uncross your arms, turn that frown upside down and move with purpose. This does require a level of self-awareness, but whenever you carry yourself highly, chances are you’ll feel better. Try it now: walk around with your head up, confident and smiling. Practice this for a few minutes each day (I know it sounds ridiculous), but it really does wonders for your confidence/mood. Remember: people who stand tall/confident are more attractive. It’s a chain effect.
I hope these tips/suggestions help you be the BEST version of YOU, God created you to be.
What tips do you have? I would love to hear them.
